Welcoming Solitude from an Extrovert’s Outlook

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It was hard embracing alone time

“Solitude is a great way to practice mindfulness, practice self-care and increase self-awareness.”

Extroverts are happening creatures. They want to be around people, share their experiences, turn strangers into reminiscence and build secure connections with everyone they sync.

I also enjoy doing that and keeping the discussion alive wherever I am. I behave in a funny way that suits the social circle (requires practice), and after all, the banters we share the whole day, I came back home to be with myself waiting to go out the next day again and enjoy the company of people.

At home, it was boring. I tell you! Now that I am enjoying alone time with reading and writing, earlier it was hard to be alone thinking about when the next day will come, and I will be talking to people again, not in text messages but face to face in person.

I wanted to utilise this alone time, and I read a lot about how to maximise solitude for productivity and learning.

I researched online and found that isolation is a great way to learn mindfulness, practice self-care, and increase self-awareness. And as we become adults, the sense of self becomes more robust with time, and we want to do all those things that boost our self-confidence so that we never look at ourselves in the mirror with a negative attitude.

Practising mindfulness

When I come back home, there is no one to crack jokes with me, there is no one to play foosball with me, and there is no one to even enjoy food with me.

Being not able to be around people, it aches, you know! Friends on calls are ok, family on the phone is also ok. But the lively dialogue that happens in person is different and I love doing that.

While thinking of mindfulness, the first thing that pops is meditation. Sure, meditation is a great way to calm your mind and clarify your thoughts in silence for self-awareness.

Since our goal here is to attain peace of mind and purify our thinking, other activities have helped me get that same status and calm for relaxing the brain. And some of them are daily chores that will make you feel productive when finished with them.

Some activities apart from meditation

“The brain Is highly focussed without clutter.”

Other than meditation, some of the activities that will improve mindfulness are:

  • cleaning your apartment,
  • setting the bed first thing in the morning OR having a morning ritual that you follow daily,
  • organising the cupboard,
  • reading,
  • writing,
  • listening to music, etc.

You can also combine all of the above in whatever way suits you. Cleaning the apartment can be a lot some times and look like a huge task. No problem, mix some music along with it.

You will automatically enjoy doing it with rhythm. I have tried it. I listen to music whenever I do laundry, arrange dried clothes, organise cupboards, clean my room and even while eating.

Music sets everything in rhythm, and I like completing tasks at an enjoyable pace.

“Setting the bed” first thing in the morning will help you have a successful day. It is true because the first thing that your brain see is the removal of clutter. That is why our productivity levels are relatively high in an organised office cabin, rather than in the same office’s open hall filled with people or your bedroom with a disorganised cupboard in plain sight.

Whenever clutter is there, our brain thinks of it as an undone task and can’t concentrate anywhere until you take care of the mess. It fixates hard on the messed up arrangements.

Thoughts flow instead of loading

“You Have Tacked Them If That Sounds Like A Relief.”

Reading and writing are less stimulating activities that improve your communication and make you an empathetic speaker too.

Writing makes you self-aware, and your thoughts become more transparent with time. You see your personal development and the story of your life in words that show your evolution with time.

Your everyday wriggling thoughts are in verbiage, and you can reflect whenever you want.

When I started this 21-day writing challenge, I thought many times before hitting the “publish” button in the initial days, but this is becoming easier day by day because as I keep doing it, the nervousness is dying.

I am more confident every day. Thoughts are becoming more apparent every day.

Leverage this time

This total country lockdown during COVID-19 pandemic is making me a more self-aware person. I am using the solitude to improve my writing skills and clear my thoughts.

This challenge is developing me as a person, and I found out that because of me, two more people started writing. How’s that for motivation, huh? And one of them is my elder brother. Though he needed some convincing when starting, I didn’t force him, and in the end, he decided to start with blogging on Medium.

Solitude is a great way to give time to reflect inside, and if an extrovert can do it, then anyone to the left of this spectrum touching the introvert can easily do this. You just need to believe and enjoy mindfulness as not a tedious activity to start with it. It can be gained from day-to-day habits too.

This article belongs to a series of articles I am publishing in this 21-day streak. See the first one here. This one is the fifteenth one — six more to go.

To read the remaining one, navigate to the end of the first article where there is a reference list sorted by day number.



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