How to See Rejection as a Declutter Mechanism

Learning what doesn’t work is a challenge that only practice can solve.

Patience and perseverance got me this far. By far, I mean today is day 81 of my 100 days writing challenge. To read the 80 articles before this, I have attached the references at the end.

When you plan specific milestones, and they don’t live up to your expectations, then instead of lashing out on yourself or anyone you think is responsible for the mistake, think about what wrong you did as that is the only thing you can control.

Recently, three of my blogs got rejected ( on Medium ) when I submitted to a few publications. The important part is they are my dream publications. That’s why I am taking the rejections seriously and want to document the experience.

Rejection comes as a negative emotion. Learn to convert it to your advantage.

Rejection just requires some introspection where you judge your process for the time being in analysing what went wrong and how to fix it.

Rejection proves we can never be perfect.

One achievement can make you high. It can even make you feel that your journey will be stagnant now.

The thinking that you have “nothing to improve now” will decelerate the learning process. You will even start to procrastinate at some point. This one is my case this entire week. Today is Saturday, and I plan to come back refreshed on Monday again.

My schedule has also been disturbed this week. I used to publish in the morning every day. This week I am posting every day in the last hour of the day. That’s not me. I want to move past it.

Rejection pulls our attention to what doesn’t work.

Knowing what doesn’t work is like a caveat you can use whenever you deliver your next work.

In my case, the rejections from the editors of my dream publications on Medium made me think about what was wrong with my blogs. There was nothing inappropriate about the content and communication, per se, but the topics weren’t quite what they were looking for according to the respective publication.

How do I know that topics did not match? Because my friends ( and family too ) read it and they liked the blogs. But editors have a responsibility to accept articles about only specific topics that are relevant to the publication’s aim.

Rejection makes you stronger.

I was so happy after several publications added me as a writer that I thought all my problems are fading now.

But it is just the beginning. Now that I have to send my articles to publications, I have a benchmark based on which my drafts’ evaluations will happen.

The rejection is only making me believe that there is a lot to improve always because one essential thing about quality is that you can’t measure it even with a combination of metrics.

Metrics means numbers, and numbers mean the quantitative aspect. When it comes to quality, you only feel the improvement with time. There is no number to signify the shift in quality. So, getting stronger by development looks like the most obvious path.

When it comes to writing, it is your empathetic communication and persuasion skills. And when it comes to getting approved by Medium publications, the topics, maybe tags too, play a significant role in acceptance.

Never forget the practical lessons.

I don’t know how many rejections I will face. But one thing I have learned from the three rejections so far is that the editors are very kind here on Medium.

I don’t have a standard to compare them with other editors on the platform. But if they devote time in reading my piece and passing informed feedback about the rejected articles, then I am grateful even more eyes will do the same in helping me improve.

More views mean more feedback; that’s how I see it. The monetary aspect is another thing that I haven’t paid attention to yet. But yes, I will monitor it later, not so soon!

When you learn to see positive lessons in the negative feedbacks like a rejection, you will declutter your process from the things you shouldn’t do!

You will only become more energetic and boost your self-confidence because you not only know what works, you also know what doesn’t work. Isn’t the knowledge about the latter equally important too?

This blog belongs to a series of posts I am publishing in this 100-days streak. Today is day 81. Navigate to the end of article 22, for the references from day 23 onwards. If you would like to read the ones before day 22, here is the first one that documents them in the end.

~ Sanjeev

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