Getting to the top is more complicated than it looks on Instagram. Especially when we follow a conventional path of success, we have to be patient enough for God knows how long!
An example is joining a group workout class where the trainer can’t pay close attention to you. The better option which fewer people use is hiring a personal trainer to reach the fitness goals faster.
Doing what fewer people — or even no one — do means you aren’t prone to judgments. Why?
Because if you execute an idea for the first time, is there enough claim to…
Since I understood the science behind flow states, it is magical how fast time swings by when you’re doing an activity just because it makes you feel alive in the present moment.
Five years ago, I only had humour as a tool to make friends or cheer myself in solitude. Once I found a set of skills that can make you an exciting person to be around, the combination excels for motivating you in isolation too.
I’ve found when the activities [ mentioned later in this post ] are clubbed to execute in a balanced way, they are poised to…
I got rejected when I texted her “I love you” at 11:59 pm on Valentine’s Day 2020. My hopes crashed like the Twin Towers.
Friday just passed, and I had the weekend to myself. I had no idea what to do. Solitude became a nightmare.
I kept thinking about her. I wanted to move on without showing my weakness. Aww, what a cute little ego!
Surprisingly, I have a background in Physics. So, I thought science must have my answers.
I recovered fast within two days by understanding the chemistry of hormones:
Our hormones run wild if we don’t understand…
Why would you listen to me? Is it because I’m funny, a wordsmith or know my game? Probably, yes. But what takes to go from “Okay, he writes well” to “Damn. He can push my buttons”. The latter one happens when you become an exciting storyteller.
I’ve become a proficient storyteller by reading, applying the learnings, and reflecting on life’s journey.
I can extract lessons from my life experiences to deliver you value.
I know you might’ve gone through similar emotional waves like me. …
Thinking about the problem from a creative POV helps you with solutions that don’t come up when adrenaline is pumping. I keep complains to myself unless someone wants a piece of me — family, friends and society alike.
As we age, creativity is relatively challenging to explore compared to childhood, unless you’re in a creative career — then your life depends on it.
But kids don’t make a living as a content creator, do they? Still, they are a natural curiosity engine.
Creativity is what kids are naturally great at showing. They learn faster than adults.
Do you know why…
You’re a fraud — says who? Ditch the perfectionism self-talk, or your self-confidence can go to hell. That’s what I did when my inner critic crossed the line!
I didn’t know what impostor syndrome was unless the condition became grave. I scoured the internet to find a name for my mental illness.
It was labelling my problem that started another problem. One word for the previous sentence — overthinking.
Knowing about the technicalities of a problem is the first step to approach a viable solution.
While I enjoyed my initial reading days after just subscribing to Medium membership in May…
I have a sickness. I love humour so bad I’ll probably marry it and procreate Mr./Mrs. Sarcasm.
Now, back from my utopia to our Earth.
Conversing with at least one distant friend on call is what I do every week. I got this idea from Michael Thompson.
How I cured his cold is discussed later, but here is a preview of the story:
I was laughed out of a friends circle when I said I was seeing a therapist. Ignorant people believe whiners go to therapy.
Not everyone needs therapy, but it is beneficial regardless of what stage you’re in life.
I knew I wanted to try therapy but was reluctant to open myself to a stranger. Little did I know, the stranger was a professional also. He turned out to be a compassionate healer.
He showed me the power of self-love. He showed me our emotions are only dominant as we let them.
I am not saying therapy is the ultimate powder…
Swallow this truth: humans are inherently irrational. We make snap decisions guided by our cognitive biases and then rationalise them with logic. It is stupid and dull. Still, we do it. We do it all the time.
We make quick decisions because those decisions come from a filter known as cognitive bias. A bias triggers our instinct to make a snap decision.
Intuition also helps in making decisions in a jiff. But unlike intuition, the instincts guided by our biases aren’t helpful.
The most powerful instinct that we carry from the stone age is — the survival instinct. The survival…
I am super-late to the caffeine world. That’s because I am lactose-intolerant ( sympathy welcomed ), haven’t acquired coffee’s taste yet, and to make the drinking easier, I gulp it as vodka — bottoms up.
I’ve heard how caffeine helps with alertness. I’ve also seen the adverse effects of caffeine. If these two sides of the same coin give you analysis paralysis, you’re not alone.
I am a seasonal hypochondriac, so if there are conflicting opinions about nutrition, I turn to science.
I researched heavily regarding timing, dosage and the working of caffeine.
Now I’ve found a satisfying answer to…
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